Showing posts with label failure. Show all posts
Showing posts with label failure. Show all posts

Thursday, July 5, 2012

Getting Out of the Desperation Dinners Rut


I don’t really like to eat. Seriously, if I could take a pill every day that gave me the appropriate caloric and vitamin intake I would happily never eat again. Or maybe only once in a while when I wanted a good cheeseburger.

Unfortunately, I have four kids and a husband who do not feel the same way about food as I do. They want to eat. Three meals a day, 365 days a year. So inconsiderate of them, isn’t it? How I feel about that?:



Feeding a family of six is not easy. I have one kid who loves spicy food, but one whose palate really can’t handle it. I have one child who just wants healthy foods, another who just wants gravies, sauces and starches. I also have one who is smart enough to slip what she doesn’t like to the dog. And considering the dog is pushing 100 pounds, maybe I should keep a closer eye on that.

I don’t prepare separate foods for the kids – they eat what we’re having or they don’t eat.  I did allow the kids to pick one food that they don’t ever have to eat. Their choices:
Kid #1 – Mashed potatoes
Kid #2 – Stuffing
Kid #3 – Squash
Kid #4 – Peppers
Although I pretty much think their choices are crazy, I work around these “least favorite foods” and everybody stays relatively happy. Except the child who wants to put Ranch dressing on everything, from pizza to vegetables to casseroles. Sigh.

I do cook because going out to eat regularly with a family of six, three of them with significant appetites, gets expensive quick.  I’ve never really understood why people ask if someone can cook? Anyone who can read can cook. Maybe not the most delicious, complex meals on the planet, but they can brown some ground beef and make some tacos or boil water and make spaghetti.

So can I cook? Yes. But am I very creative with it? Not always. Not even usually. Let’s put it this way, my two main cookbooks for the last ten years have been: Help! My Apartment has a Kitchen! and Desperation Dinners

In an attempt to get out of the cooking rut I’ve been in since..., well, forever, the last few months I have resolved to try one new recipe per week.  That has gone well some weeks (who knew you could cook babyback ribs in the crock pot and they would turn out AWESOME????). But there were other times not so great, like when I almost burnt the house down cooking curry.  

Other new recipes have included chicken and dumplings, broiled tilapia parmesan, homemade bbq chicken pizza, garlic cheddar chicken, potstickers, black bean enchiladas, Philly cheese & beef casserole and Mexican street corn. Some have been more popular or successful than others, but no matter what, we have tried them together as a family. And then sometimes tossed them and made PB&Js – but again, together as a family.

Tonight’s new recipe? Fish tacos. We’ll see how that goes – kids are not thrilled. But at least it’s new and different. And will hopefully delay my search for the food pill a little while longer.  

Tuesday, March 27, 2012

Some Days the Dragon Wins


As much as I would like to take credit for this blog post, I can’t. It’s from Jon Acuff, author of the truly hilarious collection: Stuff Christians Like and the inspirational book Quitter: Closing the Gap Between Your Day Job and Your Dream Job. I love Jon’s writing style and his blog. Check out http://www.jonacuff.com/blog/ for more awesomeness.

His post “Some Days the Dragon Wins” from January 2012 is how I feel on occasion - the last couple of weeks especially. Sigh.

Everything seems overwhelming lately: I can't get the plot of my new story to come together... I'm on a six-week running sabbatical due to hip/lower back issues so I'm trying to find other ways to keep my fitness level... My students in my online classes wonder if I still exist I'm so behind in my grading...  My house looks like a tornado hit it...

Wait, scratch that. That's the way my house always looks. But the other stuff is true...
Analysis Paralysis: AKA my life...


My "getting nothing done" problem is partly procrastination. But it's mostly analysis paralysis: I over-think things to the point of not getting anything done. And it can be a vicious cycle. That's why I never scoff at those who make To-Do lists, nor do I scoff at those who put items they've already done on the list, just so they can immediately check them off. It's all about progress.

So yes, some days the dragon wins. Some weeks the dragon wins. But I try to remember: the battle the dragon will not win.


 Some Days the Dragon Wins by Jon Acuff

 I saw this bumper sticker a few weeks ago and wanted to share it with you because it’s true.



I like that.

Some days the dragon wins.

You work as hard as you can on a resolution or a goal or a dream and the day crumbles.

You tried your hardest, but for reasons in your control or out of your control, the day fell apart.

The dragon won.

Your manuscript was not written. Your miles were not run. Your dream was not dreamed.

But, and this is an awful big but, that was just today.

Tomorrow is a new day. Tomorrow is a new chance for you to beat back the dragon all over again. Tomorrow is a day you can win.

Don’t listen to the voice of fear that says, “Real writers never lose to the dragon some days. Real runners never miss a day of training. Real businesses never have down days.”

That’s a lie.

Some days the dragon wins.

And that’s OK. As long as tomorrow, you keep fighting.